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12 Things You Should Know about BDSM Relationship

BDSM relationship is seductive and a bit mysterious, but if you don’t know the rules, you may get hurt or have a bad experience. Here are 12 things you should know about BDSM relationship if you are new to this.

1. First of all, BDSM is a state of joy that you both wish for, otherwise, it would be a crime.

BDSM is an acronym that stands for Bondage & discipline (B / D), dominance & submission (D / S), and Sadism & Masochism (S / M).

2. BDSM is not a trauma of childhood abuse

Research shows that those kinksters are not any more likely to have suffered trauma, be depressed, or have some sort of psychological psychopathology than an ordinary community sample.

3. BDSM relationships have nothing to do with sexual violence. (there is even no sexual contact at all)

Voluntary is the very first principle of BDSM, both sides should trust each other and set a consent and safe word in advance.

4. BDSM is essentially a sexy game. Having fun is the most important thing, not pain.

If you feel any discomfort, please use your safety words immediately. If you don’t,  the game may be going to be more strong which is more than you can handle.

5. Being intense is a must, but in a true BDSM relationship, comfort and trust are prerequisites. 

You have to throw away cheap whips and be willing to buy a good gift for your partner, such as a great mouth ball.

6. Pompous props are great, but skills are more important.

It’s not all like the exaggerated leather clothes, black stockings, high heels that you see on TV. You may not have a playroom full of all kinds of equipment, but your skills can make it up well.

7. Words and imaginations are extremely important.

Compared to organs and pain, what’s more exciting is the tension between Dom and Sub.

8. You need to practice hard

You have to be able to use rope well before you ask for a kinky dating.

9. Flexibility or limberness is also critical.

Keep soft and be ready to make a sexy move at any time.

10. It’s a really hard work. You need to strengthen yourself.

If you are a small master, it is highly recommended that you run 10 kilometers against the wind every day.

11. Advanced BDSM relationships need you to learn and explore together.

Come on, there’s always something making you higher up ahead

12. Fifty Shades of Grey

This phenomenal best-seller has brought BDSM relationship into the public eye again, albeit untruthfully and somewhat foolishly.

 

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